•
expression
via
body language
[
posture
(
head
position
,
arms
crossed
or not,
mirroring
someone or not);
gesture
(
nervous
or
controlled
);
facial expressions
;
breathing
]
•
subconscious
eye movements
[from
individual
's own
field
of
vision
– looking right(
guessing
,
fabricating
); looking left (remembering); looking right up (
visual
imagining
,
fabricating
); looking right sideways (
imagining
sounds
); looking right down (accessingfeelings); looking left up (
recalling
images
,
truth
); looking left sideways (rememberingsounds); looking left down (self-talking,
rationalizing
);
direct
eye contact
whenspeaking (
honesty
,
faked
honesty
);
direct
eye contact
when
listening
(
attentiveness
,interest,
attraction
);
widening
eyes
(interest, appeal,
invitation
);
eye
rubbing
(disbelief,upset,
tiredness
);
eye
shrug (
frustration
);
pupil dilation
(
attraction
,
desire
); blinkingfrequently (
excitement
,
pressure
);
eyebrow
raising
(recognition,
curiosity
,
fear
,
shock
);
winking
(
intimate
acknowledgement,
complicity
)
•
expression
via
verbal
cues
[
tone
;
pitch
;
volume
;
pacing
;
pauses
;
variation
;
phrasing
;gasps;
sighs
; hearing the unmentioned]
•
expression
via
distance
cues
[
specific
cultural
cues
for
intimate
distance
, personaldistance,
social distance
,
public distance
]
•
non-violent
communication
concepts
[
expressing
observation
v.
evaluation
;
expressing
emotions
&
sensations
w/o
narrative
;
expressing
met
& unmet needs;requesting
action
]
•
non-violent
communication
modes
[self-empathy;
receiving
empathically;truthspeaking]
•
checking in [
feelings
;
wellness
;
activities
]
•
double
I statements ["I
feel
____", "when you____", "because of my need for____”,“Iâd appreciate if you would____"]
•
consent
culture
[asking before
acting
, all
parties
give explicit,
informed
approval &have
viable
alternatives
; understanding
altered
states]
•
languages
of
love
[
affirmation
; quality time;
gifts
;
acts
of
service
;
physical
touch
]
•
fire
signaling
basics
[gray-by-day; light-in-night]
•
alternative
signals
[
reflectors
;
flags
; lanterns]
•
earthen
signaling
devices
[
bull-roarer
;
conch shell
; willow
whistle
]
•
radio
types
[
GMRS
;
FRS
;
CB
;
ham
]
•
ink
,
quills
& woven
paper
[
making
]
•
charcoal
&
bark
writing
•
ciphering
&
one-time pads
•
recognized
distress signals
[
triangles
]